
The nature of this virtue consists in there being harmony between our desires and our present circumstances. Man is not naturally self-sufficient; he is but a vessel into which something can be inserted. And , in order to be filled, he has desires which – as hands – reach out for that which he deems to be fulfilling to him. After the fall our desires have become inordinate, both in reference to the matters desired, which cannot fulfill, as well as to the manner desired; doing so too vehemently and passionately. This vice is still partially present in the children of God after regeneration and yields them much grief. They, even though they are judgmental opposed to this, also desire much. They desire that all be well according to their aspirations. these are such, however, that they cannot be filled with that which is of the earth, whereas their desires ought to be moderated according to the good which they have – be it much or little.
We must not eliminate all desires – as if the absence of desire would constitute true contentment. That would be to dehumanize man and to make him less than an animal. Our desires must be contrary to that which is evil. That which is evil must be a burden to us, must grieve us; one must feel pain under it, and must have the desire to be delivered from it. That which is good must be desirable to us and our desires must be focused on its enjoyment. We must pursue these desires by using those means which are subservient to this. Thus, contentment neither excludes the having of desires nor the use of the means, but it excludes all those desires which are focused on sinful matters. This relates to all desires for all that which exceeds our needs; all vehement and passionate desires for something which normally could be lawfully desired; all mental anguish, heartache, and pouting if things do not go our way; and the use of all evil means for the fulfillment of our desire – whereby all lawful means are neglected, and God is tempted.
However, all of this does not yet constitute contentment. Contentment consists in the correspondence of our desires with our present circumstances, and in a willingness to be in the circumstances wherein we are and in none other. Prior to being in such circumstances we may indeed have desires (a matter which we deem to be essentials); however, we must do so with a true and righteous judgment. Also, if we come into difficult circumstances, we may then indeed desire to be delivered from them and to come into better circumstances. This is not contrary to being contented.
Taken from The Christian’s Reasonable Service, Contentment (page 381), Wilhelmus à Brakel (1635-1711)